I’ve been a little quiet here on the blog lately and it’s because I’m in the process of moving!
Yes, we are uprooting our home of more than a decade and planting ourselves in a new space. In the beginning of the year, when I shared my Word of the Year, MOVE, finding a new home was one of the ways I hoped to apply to word to my life. My husband and I purchased our home three or four years before having our daughters and the home has been good to us. However, my husband’s 90 minute commute to work, three growing girls and a desire to host our friends and family more caused us to crave a new place to set up camp.
I wanted to move, but I wasn’t sure how it was going to happen.
We started out the year aggressively seeking a new space, but the housing market was crazy. I mean houses would get multiple offers within a day of being on the market. We tried to put in a competitive bid on such a home and were competing against six other families. We didn’t get it and I’m glad now, because I’m realizing that it and all the other houses we looked at were not meant for us to live in. They were helpful in that they helped us figure out what we do like and don’t like, but they weren’t meant to be ours.
So what did we do in such a crazy market to find a home?
It’s funny. We stopped looking so much. Instead of exhausting ourselves and the kids driving all over the metroplex, we got really clear on our MUST haves in our new home As a result, we narrowed our online search and made a practice of checking our email alerts for a few moments each day. Only when something really looked promising did we bother to have our realtor set up a visit to the home. We reinvested those hours that we would have been spending in the car hunting into other areas of our lives that mattered also.
We celebrated two milestone birthdays, a milestone wedding anniversary and traveled a bit. I also focused on self care in the form of a new eating plan and daily meditation and art making. While a sports injury caused me to alter my plans for daily intense workout sessions, I’ve actually seen the scale MOVE in the right direction this year. I also created two online courses, Organic Baby Care 101 and Organic Baby Care on Any Budget so that I could MOVE some of my creative projects out into the marketplace.
Meanwhile after several weeks of doing no house visits, we found a home we liked (just before Independence Day) and it was love at first sight. We put an offer on it. It didn’t work out, so I had to fall out of love. A few days later we saw another house. We liked it and compared it to a few more houses we also liked to be really sure. We decided to put in our 3rd offer and everything is going smoothly. Hopefully everything will be official and finalized by the time I write my next post.
My New Way of Focusing
Mid way through the year I can honestly say that choosing a word and narrowing my focus to a few key goals centered around a theme has been one of the best rituals I’ve ever adopted. Not everything has gone right, perfect or as expected, but I’m not focused on that. I’m focused on what is going well and that makes me pretty darn happy.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned this year is that I accomplish more when I focus on a few things at the same time. My sweet spot is about four to five things to be exact. That sounds funny, but it helps me to be able to spend a little time looking for a house, then a little time being creative, a little time working on projects with the kids, a little time taking care of myself, etc. If I hyper focus on something like finishing a creative project, or getting to a certain weight on the scale I tend to put way too much pressure on myself and a certain outcome. I truly believe finding a home felt “easy” because we didn’t allow ourselves to be consumed by the search. We were fortunate and didn’t have a critical time by which to move, so there was no need to make it a high stress aspect of our lives.
Don’t get me wrong, moving does involve stress. I’m finding it hard to say goodbye to the place I brought my babies home from the hospital. The place my mom visited so often when she was alive. The place we purchased and kept even when external circumstances said we couldn’t. The place where we’ve been blessed beyond measure even when we didn’t recognize it. On top of that there is the purging and packing of things, the repairing of broken things, etc. But I’m grateful for this experience and the journey I’m on and looking forward to whatever else will be MOVING in my life this year.
What about you? Did you choose a word this year? What is it and how is it helping you create the life you desire?